It’s the first day of Kindergarten. You are scared. Every time you turn your head, there is a sense of novelty, of the unfamiliar; it’s a new place, filled with unrecognizable faces, in an uncharted location. Feelings of anxiety and stress permeate your body, and you turn to the one woman whom you have depended upon your whole life: your mother. With a compassionate smile and a warm hug, she reassures you that the loving person standing in the front of the classroom will be the one you can trust to guide you, to plan activities for you, and to make you feel safe. She continues, points to the other humans who look just like you, and states they shall become your friends, the people you can socialize with, laugh and play with.
Once you feel comforted, she places a kiss on your forehead, and exits the room. You took a seat next to a fellow individual; you began to grin, and the adult in charge commenced an activity that captivated your imagination. Your mother was right: everything would be great.
Your mother, on the other hand, after closing the door, cried. It was not that she was not happy about this new chapter in your life; she was scared, too. For the first time in your life, she was placing your well-being into the hands of a stranger. Even though she knew the person appointed for such a responsibility was well-credentialed to offer you first-class developmentally appropriate measures, a sense of guilt was nonetheless present.
After years have passed, the roles have altered on Moving Day. This time, your mother is the one who is frightened of the unknown. The woman who has wiped your tears, cleaned your skinned knees, and made your favorite meals, needs you now more than ever. There might be tension in her chest; perhaps memories of her youth, of being independent and in charge of her own life, are flooding her mind; feelings of nostalgia are possible, as she longs for the comfort only her home can provide her. As her child, you might feel reprehensible for removing her from her safe haven, her friends, her community, and placing her in the care of specialized senior care providers. You might be feeling as if you are abandoning her. Like your mother all those years ago, you might feel guilty for not being able to provide more, to provide everything she needs, because no one can love and understand your mother better than you.
At Bella Vita Assisted Living, we understand the emotions you and your mother are feeling; our staff members are parents and children, too. Despite what you might believe to be true, these feelings, of anxiety and distress, are customary. As your mother put her trust into your teacher, it is our sincere hope that you will discover the same level of trust can be placed into the staff at Bella Vita Assisted Living. Our goal is not to remove the independence your mother has become accustomed to; it is to make your mother feel appreciated, loved, and safeguarded.
If you have any questions regarding your mother’s, or your own adjustment, to living in an assisted living facility, please contact us at (813) 543-8482.